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I love this!!

I came across this list a few months ago when I was tired of being my own worst enemy. Instead I wanted to to become my own best friend or at the very least build up my self-esteem. I hope some of you can benefit from it as much as I did.

It’s a sweet recipe for self-love that you can indulge in everyday of your life.


1. Take full responsibility for your life. Stop blaming others.
2. Participate in life at the highest level you can. Make a list of 10 things you love doing and do them frequently.
3. Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts.
4. Be gentle and kind and patient with yourself.
5. Give yourself the simple pleasures of life abundantly.
6. Watch what you say. Avoid self put-downs.
7. Stop being critical of yourself and others.
8. Take care of your body. Give it exercise and good food.
9. Be willing to create a life-style that generates and nourishes
10. Associate with others with high esteem.
11. Acknowledge yourself frequently. Even if it’s just a diary you keep of your successes and accomplishments.
12. Avoid comparing yourself with others.
13. Remember that it’s who we are, not what we do, that’s important.
14. Give yourself permission to do nothing periodically. Schedule time by yourself.
15. Frequently take deep breaths. Discover the benefit and pleasure of breathing fully.
16. Stop trying to change others. Focus your attention on being the way you want others to be.
17. Look into a mirror regularly and say “I love you, I really love you”.
18. Stop feeling guilty and saying “I’m sorry”. See mistakes as valuable lessons and avoid judging yourself.
19. Consciously generate positive thoughts and feelings of self-love
in place of old thoughts of inadequacy.
20. Be willing to laugh at yourself and at life. Stop taking yourself so seriously.
21. Accept compliments from others without embarrassment. Don’t invalidate their positive thoughts and feelings about you.
22. Be kind to your mind. Don’t hate yourself for having negative thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
23. Keep your awareness and your thoughts focused in present time instead of living in the past or future.
24. Acknowledge others frequently. Tell them what you like and appreciate in them.
25. Treat yourself as you would treat someone you really loved. Praise yourself.

Source: http://girlsguideto.com/article/25-best-self-love-tips


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I found this on a site I browse, and thought it was absolutely delightful. We all need a little bit more fun in our lives, so start with this. Send it to everyone you know, pick things on this list and do them, laugh, smile, enjoy life.

Love, love, love you all. 

  1. Page yourself over the intercom. (Don’t disguise your voice.)
  2. Find out where your boss shops and buy exactly the same outfits. Always wear them one day after your boss does. (This is especially effective if your boss is a different gender than you are.)
  3. Make up nicknames for all your coworkers and refer to them only by these names. “That’s a good point, Sparky”. “No I’m sorry I’m going to have to disagree with you there, Sport.”
  4. Send email to the rest of the company telling them what you’re doing. For example “If anyone needs me, I’ll be in the bathroom.”
  5. “Hi-lite” your shoes. Tell people that you haven’t lost your shoes since you did this.
  6. While sitting at your desk, soak your fingers in “Palmolive.”
  7. Put mosquito netting around your cubicle. Play a tape of jungle sounds all day.
  8. Put a chair facing a printer, sit there all day and tell people you’re waiting for your document.
  9. Arrive at a meeting late, say you’re sorry, but you didn’t have time for lunch, and you’re going to be nibbling during the meeting. During the meeting eat 5 entire raw potatoes.
  10. Insist that your e-mail address be: zena_goddess_of_fire@companyname.com or Elvis_the_King@companyname.com
  11. Every time someone asks you to do something, ask him or her if they want fries with that.
  12. Send email to yourself engaging yourself in an intelligent debate about the direction of one of your company’s products. Forward the mail to a co-worker and ask her to settle the disagreement.
  13. Encourage your colleagues to join you in a little synchronized chair dancing.
  14. Put your garbage can on your desk. Label it “IN.”
  15. Determine how many cups of coffee are “too many.”
  16. Develop an unnatural fear of staplers.
  17. Decorate your office with pictures of Cindy Brady and Danny Partridge. Try to pass them off as your children.
  18. For a relaxing break, get away from it all with a mask and snorkel in the fish tank. If no one notices, take out your snorkel and see how many you can catch in your mouth.
  19. Send e-mail messages saying free pizza, free donuts etc… in the lunchroom, when people complain that there was none… Just lean back, pat your stomach, and say, “Oh you’ve got to be faster than that.”
  20. Adjust the tint on your monitor so that the brightness level lights up the entire work area. Insist to others that you like it that way.
  21. Put decaf in the coffee maker for 3 weeks. Once everyone has gotten over his or her caffeine addiction, switch to espresso.
  22. Send e-mail to the rest of the company to tell them what you’re doing. For example, “If anyone needs me, I’ll be in the bathroom, in Stall # 3.”
  23. Reply to everything someone says with, “That’s what you think.”
  24. Finish all your sentences with “in accordance with the prophecy.”
  25. Adjust the tint on your monitor so that the brightness level lights up the entire working area. Insist to others that you like it that way.
  26. In the memo field of all your checks, write ‘for sexual favors’.
  27. Dont use any punctuation
  28. Use, too…much; punctuation!
  29. As often as possible, skip rather than walk.
  30. Ask people what sex they are. Laugh hysterically after they answer.
  31. Specify that your drive-through order is ‘to go’.
  32. Sing along at the opera.
  33. Call the psychic hotline and don’t say anything.
  34. At lunch time, sit in your parked car w/sunglasses on and point a hairdryer at passing cars. See if they slow down.
  35. Go to a poetry recital and ask why the poems don’t rhyme.
  36. Call 911 and ask if 911 is for emergencies. (warning: you can get arrested for this, but that can be instructive too)
  37. Five days in advance, tell your friends you can’t attend their party because you’re not in the mood.
  38. Have your coworkers address you by your wrestling name, “Rock Hard.”
  39. When the money comes out of the ATM, scream “I Won!”, “I Won!” “3rd time this week!!!”
  40. When leaving the zoo, start running towards the parking lot, yelling “Run for your lives, they’re loose!”
  41. Tell your boss, “It’s not the voices in my head that bother me, its the voices in your head that do.”
  42. Tell your children over dinner. “Due to the economy, we are going to have to let one of you go.”
  43. Send this e-mail to everyone in your address book, even if they sent it to you or have asked you not to send them stuff like that.

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“The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.”

– Allan Chalmers

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This morning on my way to school I was exhausted, to say the least. I needed a boost, some energy, a revival of some sort. But what…? As I drove on I got to thinking and it hit me:

We all have those mornings where we can barely drag ourselves out of bed, or the afternoons where all we want to do is collapse when there is still a million things to be done. And I know that we all have those moments in our lives where we’re feeling down, or tired, or just plain worn out in general. Well I have the perfect pick-me-up for that!

Rules: This can be done alone or with any number of friends or family members – in a car, kitchen, park, room – just about anywhere safe – BUT the key is to ONLY do it in an environment in which YOU are COMPLETELY COMFORTABLE.

Step 1: Find your favorite song.

Step 2: Find a music player of some sort.

Step 3: Turn volume up high – preferably loud enough to where you can’t hear yourself sing, or you can only hear your voice in sync with the singer(s). (This may best be done once the music has started to avoid hurting your ears.

Step 4: Sing your heart out. And I mean it. Sing loud, sing from your stomach, sing with feeling and passion and give it all you’ve got.

Step 5: If you feel like it, dance.

Step 6: Continue to rock out until your mood has improved. :)

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  1. It makes you attractive.
  2. It changes your mood.
  3. It is contagious.
  4. It relieves stress.
  5. It boosts your immune system.
  6. It lowers your blood pressure.
  7. It releases endorphins, natural pain killers and serotonin – a natural antidepressant.
  8. It lifts the face and makes you look younger.
  9. It makes you seem successful.
  10. It helps you stay positive.

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Change how you think about a situation in order to deal with it in a more positive way
By Tori Rodriguez Posted January 18, 2011 from WomansDay.com

Even though you can’t always control what happens, you can productively deal with what life throws your way. Whether you tend to fall prey to faulty logic or interpret situations in pessimistic ways, by recognizing your own knee-jerk reactions, you can shift your state of mind from negative to positive. We spoke with mental health experts to get their advice on the best ways to handle the most common negative mindsets and learned that a little tweak in attitude can make a big difference in outcome.

Situation #1: Your boss points out a mistake you made on a report and you’re instantly gripped with fear that you’re going to be fired, even though you’re a top performer.

To overcome this type of attentional bias, in which you over-focus on the negative despite plenty of evidence to the contrary, Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, author of the bestselling book A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness, suggests the following approach: “Remember that everyone makes mistakes. They provide an opportunity for you to learn and do even better next time.” Add balance to your perspective by mentally reviewing some of your work-related successes, she advises. Then address the error, quickly refocus and move on. And keep in mind that assuming the worst only makes you anxious, which increases the likelihood that you’ll…make mistakes! Photo: Thinkstock

Situation #2: You’re making dinner plans with a friend, and even though you don’t like any of her restaurant suggestions, you go with one of her picks and resent it later.

Often, we’re hesitant to give our input because we’re not sure if it’s worthy or whether others will be receptive. But that’s the whole point of communication; think of it as a chance to explore ideas, not as a performance or a battle of wills. You have every right to have your say, and your point of view is just as valid as anyone else’s, but don’t expect people to guess what you want or badger you for your preferences. Instead, offer some suggestions of your own, in a clear and friendly way (“I do like that place, but would you be open to trying…?”). And remember, if she’s not wild about your idea, then it’s her responsibility to say so. Photo: Shutterstock

Situation #3: Even though you were able to cross off 11 of the 16 items on your to-do list, you still feel unproductive because you wanted to finish all the tasks.

Negative perfectionism is linked to anger and rumination, such as obsessing about thoughts of inadequacy, according to a study published in the December 2010 issue of the International Journal of Psychology. With positive perfectionism, however, you do your best but allow for flexibility. To switch sides, keep in mind that a goal is meant to guide you, not measure your self-worth. And remember, you don’t have to be perfect to be acceptable, says Stephen Howard, MD, an Atlanta-based psychiatrist and psychotherapist. Think back to when you may have learned otherwise and try to counter negative thoughts with: “I’m doing the best I can, and that’s pretty good,” Dr. Howard advises. For example, instead of criticizing yourself for not finishing all your chores, commend yourself for the accomplishments you did make, and take a crack at the rest of them the next day. And, if you’re consistently not accomplishing the goals you set for yourself, you may be aiming unrealistically high. Next time, take a few to-dos off the list. Photo: Thinkstock

Situation #4: You’re feeling more anxious than usual today and assume this must mean that something bad is going to happen.

Steer clear of emotional reasoning, which means you’re confusing feeling with fact. Try to pinpoint what might be stressing you out—lack of sleep, too much caffeine, an argument with your brother—and deal with the problem as best as you can. Try doing a few exercises or stretching for more energy, clear the air with your bro or take a nap (especially if PMS is the source of your stress: One study found that a 30-minute afternoon nap helped improve participants’ moods during that time of month). If you can’t figure out the cause of your anxiety and it continues to bother you, consult a therapist or physician for help. Photo: Shutterstock

Situation #5: You resolve to get in shape to look your best for your sweetie, but by the third session of your new boot camp program, you’d rather do anything but work out.

Studies show that intrinsic motivation—doing something for you, not someone else—is correlated with long-term exercise habits and better health outcomes. Instead of getting fit for your partner, think about the reasons that you want to improve your health, maybe to gain energy or improve your mood for example, and commit to being kind to yourself by taking steps toward those goals. Dr. Lombardo recommends making a list of your reasons and reading them out loud at least twice a day to keep them at the forefront of your mind. Photo: Shutterstock

Situation #6: You’re awaiting the lab results from a routine checkup and it occurs to you that something might come back abnormal, so you assume that must be true.

A close cousin of emotional reasoning, overimportance of thoughts is a cognitive error that leads us to believe that the mere presence of a thought means something. Instead, observe your thoughts as they arise, and don’t rush to assign meaning to them—especially if there’s no supporting evidence for your worries. Next time, don’t expect your doctor to contact you with bad news. Rather, reassure yourself that there’s no cause for concern and that just thinking something doesn’t make it so. Photo: Thinkstock

Situation #7: You approach your boss with a new idea, but she tells you it doesn’t fit with the company’s goals, so you slink back to your desk and chide yourself for even making the suggestion.

“Rather than viewing this as a failure, consider it to be data regarding what happened and why, so that you can be empowered,” and use the information to your advantage in the future, advises Dr. Lombardo. Even though you’re disappointed, don’t take her decision personally or assume your ideas aren’t good enough. If you believe you’ll never have success, then you won’t try, which will certainly bring failure. “And let your brain keep brainstorming,” Dr. Lombardo adds. “Creativity, regardless of what happens to the ideas, is an important part of bringing more happiness into your life.” Photo: Thinkstock

Situation #8: You recently recommitted to getting healthy, but that slice of cake you ate was so good, you just had to have a second slice…and then you spiraled into an all-day junk fest.

"Stop the all-or-nothing thinking (which has been linked to mental health issues and weight gain), and refrain from depriving yourself,” recommends Dr. Lombardo. When you do opt for the not-so-nutritious picks, try to eat mindfully to enjoy every bite. Then lick your lips, resume eating healthfully and get on with your day. “So often we feel guilty for ‘giving in,’ which raises our level of stress. And when stress levels are high, it’s hard to think and act rationally,” she explains. So cut yourself some slack and learn to accept the small bumps that occur along the road of life. Photo: Thinkstock

Situation #9: Your significant other is often moody, despite your best efforts to cheer him up, so you assume the problem must be you.

First, be aware of how your past relationships affect your present ones. For example, if you used to tiptoe around your father to try to keep him happy, that experience—and the thoughts and feelings it evoked—are likely shading your reactions to your partner now, explains Dr. Howard. Don’t take someone else’s moods personally or make it your job to change them. Instead, remind yourself that these are his moods, and you can get on with your life and invite him to join you, Dr. Howard suggests. “Each of us has to be responsible for our own happiness." Photo: Thinkstock

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“Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.” Roald Dahl

1. A baby is taking its first few steps without falling.

2. Two people somewhere in the world, are falling in love.

3. Somewhere, someone is admiring a breathtaking sunrise, and somewhere else, a surreal sunset.

4. A soldier of sorts is diligently fighting the fight so you don’t have to

5. Someone who suffered from a severe injury last year is back on their feet.

6. A small group of people are building something that will soon make the impossible possible.

7. Somewhere on Earth a double rainbow is stretched from one end of the horizon to the other.

8. One of the next Billboard-chart-topping musical artists is patiently rehearsing in her garage.

9. A piece of literature is being written that will eventually change your perspective on life.

10. A friend is helping a friend rise above thoughts of suicide.

11. People of various religious backgrounds are in temples, churches, mosques and other places of worship praying, wholeheartedly, for world peace.

12. An elderly couple is celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary.

13. Two best friends are laughing so hard that they aren’t even making any noise.

14. A firefighter is running into a burning building to rescue a perfect stranger.

15. Someone in your hometown genuinely wants to be your friend.

16. A new mom is lying in a hospital bed and holding her baby twins for the very first time.

17. Someone is taking a shower and singing happily at the top of their lungs.

18. There is someone out there who smiles when they think of a specific moment they once shared with you.

19. An alcoholic just celebrated one full year of sobriety.

20. Volunteers in major cities all over the world are working at homeless shelters caring for those who are less fortunate than themselves.

21. A high school athlete just broke their own personal record.

22. Two teenagers just received their very first kiss ever from each other.

23. Someone is hugging a friend who desperately needs it.

24. Someone just placed their spare change in the charity collection cup at the grocery store.

25. A small group of friends are sitting around a table sharing funny stories and cheerfully reminiscing about the good old days.

26. Honest people are working for various government entities to help protect your basic human rights and civil liberties.

27. An emergency room surgeon is in the middle of saving his patient’s life.

28. Someone is holding the door open for the person behind them.

29. Someone out there is missing you and looking forward to your next visit.

30. We are reminded that extraordinary things happen to ordinary people, and that there is beauty and wonder in everyday life.

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